Kids Need... Positive Role Models
by Sensei Matt Dorsey of Martial Arts America
We're all exposed on a daily basis to so many images and so much information about celebrities, sports stars, TV and movie personalities, and Instagram "influencers" that it can be confusing about what's real and what's contrived and who is making a positive impact on the people around them and who is not. If it's challenging for us as adults, think of how it affects children.
The quick-changing pop culture opinions and media may build up a person as a hero one day, then report on an arrest or disturbing behavior the next. And our children, who are constantly on the lookout for people to look up to, are disappointed and disillusioned again and again.
It can be healthy for child to want to be like the heroes and superstars they look up to. Parents must remember that they, the parents, are the most important role model in their child's life, and they have the power to introduce kids to adults and even older kids who can teach powerful lessons beyond the ones learning in their family.
It's not easy. As a parent, we have so many things to manage that being a role model is often the furthest thing down on the list. But it's important. Are you being a role model for your child in the daily activities and situations of life? From healthy eating (how's your own diet?) to fitness (did you do your walk today?) to being organized (where did you put that important paper?) to showing self control when angry or frustrated (don't say it, don't say it) - these are all "lessons" you're teaching your child whether you realize it or not.
Role models outside the home are important too. From a trusted family friend to a school teacher or a sports coach - these individuals can also be positive role models for your child. In martial arts, the "sensei" (teacher) is often viewed as a role model both from the knowledge and skill they posses and from their personal encouragement to the student. Martial arts teachers take their position of authority and respect seriously and use it help their students excel in their training and in the building of their character.
Finding the right role models for your child (and being one yourself) are important aspects that help a child grow, learn, and emulate the positive life skills needed for a successful and fulfilled life.
Sensei Matt Dorsey is the owner and head instructor of Martial Arts America.
He’s been training in martial arts for over 45 years and holds a 9th degree black belt in Isshin ryu karate, as well as a 2nd degree black belt in Iaido (Samurai sword) and a 1st degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do. He also has experience in jujitsu, kali, tai chi and other martial arts.
His passion for teaching children and adults led him to open his first dojo in 1980 and he’s been a professional martial arts teacher (including teaching our publisher, Debra Ross!) ever since.
This article is part of a series. Follow the links to read Sensei Matt's articles on goals and focus.
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